WHAT’S THE SECRET TO A LONG-LASTING RELATIONSHIP?
At the end of August my partner, John, and I marked our twentieth anniversary together. In many ways this is unremarkable. Virtually every male couple I know are in very long-term relationships – even friends of mine who are in their twenties or thirties seem to be destined to be ‘togethah forevah’. Why is this notable? Simple. Because even nowadays there is this perception that gay men are incapable of maintaining long-term relationships and that they are more interested in one night stands and a life of bed-hopping than establishing deep roots with another person.
I’ve never thought gay men (or women, for that matter) are any more hedonistic than their straight counterparts. I think gay men got a reputation for shagging anything that moves because of the ease of access to sex if you wanted it. But as we see from the success of sites like Ashley Madison, PlentyOfFish, Tinder and countless others, straight men and women now have exactly the same opportunities.