The self-love journey is an ongoing commitment to nourishing the relationship we have with ourselves; the most important relationship we’ll ever have. It’s an unconditional acceptance of ourselves as we are now, the awareness that there’s nothing to fix and therefore we don’t need to be anything else or do anything else that is removed from who we really are.
This month we’re exploring self-love’s arch nemesis: comparison. We’ve all heard that comparison is the thief of joy, and by its very nature, it blocks us from true self-love in so many ways. Whichever route that comparison takes you down, it is likely that it will lead to the feeling that you’re always falling short, that you’re unworthy or less than other people. That other people are doing a better job at life than you are, so you scramble for ways to be like them. And this results in a lack of acceptance for you as you are now. When you learn to release comparisons, you gain more self-acceptance, which helps you to finally embrace your uniqueness: what makes you, you. Your individuality is your greatest superpower, and the more you can step into who you authentically are, the better you will feel about your life. It also leads to a feeling of more gratitude, as you are able to focus on what you already have and where you are now, rather than what you don’t have. This focus on you as you are now also means you can live in the present moment more, which is always a more joyful place to live.