“I feel resentful towards my ex”
Our agony aunt Mary Fenwick offers a new perspective on whatever is troubling you
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MARY FENWICK is a business coach, journalist, fundraiser, mother, divorcée and widow
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Q: Fifteen years ago, my partner left me and destroyed what I thought was going to be my future. Our daughter was two.
I’ve raised a happy child, bought a home and tried to have relationships with other men, but without success.
I still feel such bitterness towards my ex, who is still involved in the raising of our child, but leaves all the responsibility to me, other than making a small financial contribution.
How do I stop feeling so resentful and able to imagine a future with a new partner? Name supplied
A: I love this question, but that does not mean I have the answer. Let me start by saying that you are perfectly entitled to feel alone, sad and angry at times, alongside your justifiable pride in your achievements.