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”N o longer the new kid on the block”

LESSONS IN ADULTHOOD

When I got to my 30s, I stopped marking my career in terms of years. My contemporaries also no longer said things like: ‘I’ve got five years’ experience in this role.’ It felt as though I had staked out my own little territory and was secure in it. Until, one day, I noticed new, younger faces stepping up, and stepping past. Suddenly, I felt less like a statesperson of my own career country and more like the old guard. How did that happen?

This is particularly tough if you work in an industry that relies on social media. A cocktail of Facebook, Instagram and Twitter is enough to give anyone a blurry idea of reality but, as much as you tell yourself that what you see isn’ t the whole story, part of you wonders: am I past it? There are a lot of young women doing incredible things and, as much as I cheer them on, a part of me fears my time is running out.

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