Dear Attitude,
I have been in a relationship with my partner for five happy years. As with most relationships our sex life has slowed down a little bit, but as far as I thought that was fine. Recently my partner sat me down and asked me if I would be OK with opening up the relationship. At first he suggested we invite a third person for a threesome (which I thought he meant as a joke), but since then he has asked me if I would mind if he hooked up with other guys to spice things up.
I love my boyfriend and I don’t want to lose him, but I am not sure I want to share him with anyone. I have told him that I don’t need anyone else (hoping he’d say the same) but he keeps telling me that he would like to have sex with other guys. He assures me it’s not cheating because no emotions are involved. What do I say? I’m not a big fan of the idea because I don’t like the idea of him shagging around and me knowing about it, but I don’t want to lose him either.