Coming out? For who?
It’s hard for many still figuring out their identity to be instantly bombarded with questions which you’re not quite sure about the answers to yourself.
by Rebecca Kelly
There is a sense that if you’re not 100 percent sure of yourself right away, you’re either faking it or you do in fact have it all figured out but you’re ashamed of the conclusion you’ve come to.
Although both are very possible, why is it that we as queer people are made to feel this way? Who are we really coming out for?
As a lesbian, it took me quite a while to become comfortable with using the actual word ‘lesbian’ to self-describe. The negative associations I had built up around the word is, I’m sure, a result of not only the hyper-sexualisation and demonising of queer women by society on a wider scale, but also from my own personal experiences as a young child to right through my teenage years.