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In March 2012, my wife Sarah and I had our civil partnership. It’s been a glorious five and a half years, full of laughs and adventures and arguments over the pronunciation of the word “almond”, but if I had a pound for every time someone has asked since when we were going to “upgrade”, we’d be able to afford another one. We tell them all the same thing – we’ve no plans to convert to a marriage – and each time are met with the same confused look. Why wouldn’t we want the real thing? The thing is, we feel like we have the real thing. Our wedding at The Caves in Edinburgh was better than I ever could have imagined, and when our celebrant declared us partners for life and we walked hand in hand down the aisle to Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us Now by Starship, it didn’t feel like second best. It felt perfect. I know ours is not the most popular opinion – the number of couples entering into civil partnerships in Scotland, England and Wales has fallen dramatically since the introduction of same-sex marriage three years ago, evidence that most couples do want “the real thing”. But civil partnership, to us, is a modern, egalitarian institution that doesn’t carry the same baggage that marriage does. We get (most of) the benefits of being married without having to sign up to the things we don’t believe in. It might not be for everyone, but it works for us. Whether you and your partner choose a marriage or civil partnership – or not to have your relationship legally recognised at all – I hope you enjoy this, our wedding issue, and that you and your partner are as happy as me and Sarah are. After all, the piece of paper we sign and the words we use to describe each other aren’t really important. What matters is that she’s my fave. Even if she does say almond weird.

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Looking bloody adorable on the cover this month is the incredible Ellen Page, who talks to DIVA about her new film Flatliners, being gay in Hollywood, and how coming out has changed her life for the better. Also in this issue… Win a wedding worth £15,000! Below Her Mouth: We speak to the stars of the hit lesbian film Suits you! Bridal fashion for the gentlewoman Nicole Faraday: Bad Girls helped me accept my sexuality Happily ever after? One cynic’s search for long-lasting love Living History: Marguerite McLaughlin on why older generations are our strongest link to our future Rainbow Honeymoons Fantastic books and where to find them Plus travel, culture and much much more!