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Dear Aled. I guess there’s no easy way to say this – my ex-boyfriend has started self-harming. I know this because, well, he told me about it. He said he needed to get it off his chest, but now I feel fucking awful about it – he’s been on a bit of a downward spiral since we broke up a few weeks ago. He promises me it won’t happen again and he’s going to get help, but I can’t shake the feeling of guilt and responsibility. And I’m worried about trying to help him too much with this, because if I go ‘running back’ then he might think that I’ll do the same thing if he self-harms again. Not only that, but I’m terrified now about what he might do if I try and move on with my life or meet someone else. Actually, saying that out loud makes me sound really selfish, but I just don’t know what to be doing or feeling right now. Do you have any advice? From JH

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