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At the age of 17, Phumlani Kango, a member of South Africa’s Xhosa community, went through a traditional rite of passage — supposedly to help him become more of a man — before escaping to Exeter on a gap year where he could finally explore his sexuality

As a child growing up in the Eastern Cape region of South Africa, I was never aware of gender “rules”. I used to play with boys and girls. I’d play soccer with the boys and Barbie dolls with the girls. We’d also put jerseys over our hair and pretend we were the Spice Girls.

In primary school, you could tell I was gay because of my mannerisms. But I wasn’t out, or even aware of my gayness — I had never noticed any of these things because to me it was who I was; I felt free and liberated.

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