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FLIRTY AND THRIVING

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I loved the feature, ‘The art of flirting’ (March issue). It has made a massive difference to my life. I had always wondered why sometimes people seem to love me and flock around me and, at other times, when I really need company, they seem to shy away. Your article has made me realise that when I’m feeling down or hurt, my inner flirt disappears, and those around me switch off to me.

Knowing that gives me the power to choose how I behave and to use my inner flirt to attract the responses I need, however I’m feeling. Thank you for another valuable life lesson.

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