Top, bottom or switch?
Or should we just get rid of these labels altogether?
BY FRANKIE HALL
I’m packing the strap into my bag as I prepare to head off to stay over at my girlfriend, Juno’s*, place for the night. “If you have space for it, I think we should migrate the strap to your place… seeing as we mostly stay at yours,” I text. “INTERESTING,” comes her reply. When I ask how so, she responds: “Well, that makes sense. Allegedly, it usually lives with whoever is the ‘top’ as they have the most use for it.”
This is not the first time we’ve discussed the roles we play together in the bedroom. We’re in the early days of our relationship, and with both of us having had little to no prior same-sex sexual experiences, we’ve had lots of fun exploring our sexualities together. But when it comes to labels, is there a pressure to put ourselves in a rigid box? Does it do more harm than good?