Jules and I met online in 2009. I sent her a message and got the reply: “I know who you are” (stalker). It turned out we’d both gone to the same university! From day one we both spoke of our desire to start a family one day.
Jules and I were married in January 2012. We started trying for a family not long after through a brilliant clinic in Manchester. Where Jules was keen to experience being pregnant, I had no urge to carry myself, and have never felt the need to be genetically related to my children so we ruled out egg sharing and started with IUI (intrauterine insemination). After three failed attempts, we moved onto IVF (in vitro fertilisation) and a different unknown donor. Choosing a donor is the most bizarre shopping experience I’ve ever had. We poured over profiles until we were blue in the face, but in the end, settled on the one who just “felt right”.