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How many times have you had sex and not enjoyed every moment? How many times have you done something for a partner’s pleasure and sacriiced your own? You may be someone who only ever does what you want in bed and, if you are, bravo! But, for many of us, saying what we like and don’t like, what we want to try, when we want to start or stop, where we want to touch and be touched, is terrifying. We fear judgment if we reveal our true desires and rejection if we don’t give our partner what they want. Often, we sufer in silence, going along with ‘the norm’, heading for the accepted conclusion, his orgasm, and hopefully ours too, whether we are loving it or not.
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