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My secret sex diary

Darcy* reflects on getting her first vibrator aged 25 AS TOLD TO ELLA GAUCI

“My vagina was a mystery to me”

Growing up Catholic, we never spoke about masturbation. Like ever. In fact, the first time I even heard someone talk about it at all was during a game of Never Have I Ever in the school playground when I was 14.

When I began going through puberty, I realised I liked girls. While my friends began to whisper about pensises and blowjobs, I was trying to grapple with the growing desire inside me for my unrequited crushes. I had no idea what sex with a girl would look or feel like. My own vagina was practically a mystery to me – let alone someone else’s.

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