ORGASM
How to have the orgasm you want
1 DO YOUR HOMEWORK
Practice! Get to know your body and what turns you on, whether that’s a particular technique, activity or intensity of touch, or a fantasy that really hits your button.
2 GET IN THE ZONE
Switch off your phone, dim the lights and light some candles, don sexy clothes, read some erotica or watch some porn, take a shower or give each other a relaxing massage – whatever works for you.
3 STOP WORRYING
Relax. Don’t focus too much on having an orgasm. Focus on enjoying the sex for its own sake, whether it’s warm and cuddly or dirty and exciting. Be in the moment.
4 MAKE SOME NOISE
Tell your partner how it feels; breathe, moan, writhe if that feels sexy to you. Sound can be a real turn-on, not just for your partner but for you too. (Try it first when you’re masturbating if you feel silly doing it in company.)