There’s plenty of wedding etiquette available for happy couples approaching their big day, but what about the guests? Save yourself some stress as you get invited to a shed-load of big gay weddings with our ultimate survival guide.

Three years in to marriage equality, more and more same-sex couples are tying the knot. The upshot is that lot of us can expect to be invited to big fat homosexual weddings, and as the good gay Lord knows, that will come with stress attached. There’s plenty of etiquette advice out there for the bride and bride, or the groom and groom, but precious little for the rest of us. With that in mind, we present our ultimate guide to surviving a same-sex wedding, or any wedding for that matter. Read and learn!

My invitation just had my name printed on it in curly swirly text. It didn’t include my partner or a plus-one. Can I bring him/her anyway?

Unfortunately, the answer is no. Only the explicitly invited may attend a wedding, and if someone crashes, it’s never pretty. Having said that, if you don’t give a flying crap what the newlyweds and all of their/your friends think of you, by all means drag your current squeeze along. Just don’t expect a place card for him/her on any of the tables, or much in the way of respect.