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The confabulation


I first realised I wasn’t a fan of labels when I was chatting to a woman in a gay bar. She was intelligent, curious and compassionate, a charity worker with a fondness for the outdoors. “I don’t have many gay friends so it’s really lovely to meet other lesbians and bi women,” I said, sipping my wine. “Actually I’m queer…” she said with sneering disdain.

I had no idea what queer meant at that point. I had to squirrel out the word, hunched over my laptop, but the unspoken sentiment was clear: we’re done here. As someone who had only recently come out, it wasn’t quite the roaring welcome to the LGBTQI+ community I had been hoping for. My girls-only dating app is awash with labels: bi, bi-curious, lesbian, gay, (I’m still not sure of the difference between lesbian and gay!), pansexual, queer, boi, femme. Whatever happened to just taking a girl out for coffee? Now we need to lay our sexual preferences on the table before we’ve even swapped numbers: “Sarah. 34. Hey! A happy-go-lucky yoga instructor with a passion for peanut butter and walks on the beach. Also, I have sex with men sometimes too”.

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We’re thrilled to have the star of everyone’s favourite prison dramedy on the cover of this month’s DIVA. In a brilliant interview written by editor Carrie Lyell, Taylor Schilling opens up about sexuality, sisterhood and why Orange Is The New Black still has audiences hooked five seasons in. Also in this issue… - Mae Martin goes on a long overdue Tinder date with deputy ed Roxy Bourdillon - Ani DiFranco on why patriarchy is the elephant in the room - Zoe Lyons: “I met my wife on Lesvos” - Jane Hill shares her love letter to Canada - Queer travel bloggers tell us their top tips for a great gaycation - Long distance relationships: the good, the bad and the Megabus - Why we fight: How boxing is changing women’s lives Plus eco-friendly travel, female craft brewsters and more!