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As soon as you do something kind for others, oxytocin is released into your brain, and you want to do more

Ruby Wax is fearless. She is reclining on her yellow Argos sunlounger in the garden of her beautiful stuccoed town house in the luvvies’ favourite patch of West London, Notting Hill. For many, this represents the pinnacle of success, but Ruby’s not impressed. She’s opting out and going to live in an eco community in the north of Scotland. There, the comedian with an Oxford degree in mindfulness-based cognitive behavioural therapy and a garden full of fake fabric flowers, will learn how to harvest home-grown veggies for the local food bank and live in a low-impact and sustainable way.

This change of direction in her 60s is thanks to two years of research for her latest book, ‘And Now For The Good News: To The Future With Love’.

‘Don’t think I’m not grateful for all this,’ she says, waving a hand in the general direction of the house. ‘I just think: “Wow, how did I fucking do this?’’’

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