Backdoor Betty
ANNA SANSOM’S HOW TO GUIDE TO SAFE, ENJOYABLE BUTT LOVE
"I love giving my girlfriend anal sex. The first time she said, ‘Fuck my arse… please,’ I felt thrilled that she trusted me with this and that I got to do something I’d always been told was taboo. I pulled on a latex glove and dribbled lube down her butt crack, watching it run all the way down to her puckered hole. I ran one finger through the lube and slowly circled and stroked her opening. We’d already been playing for a while and I knew she really wanted to come. I ended up finger-fucking her pussy and her arse at the same time and she ended up coming really strongly. Afterwards I felt closer to her than ever before and in awe of how much pleasure her body could give her.”
WHAT IS ANAL SEX AND WHAT’S SO GREAT ABOUT IT?
Anal sex is not just about penetration. It can also include stroking, kissing and licking the anus (also known as “rimming”). There are lots of sensitive nerve endings there that can offer you feelings of pleasure when this area is stimulated. For those who enjoy anal sex (on its own or combined with stimulation of the clitoris or other erogenous zones) it can feel ecstatic.
If you feel ambivalent or turned off by the thought of anal play, it is worth remembering that how you feel emotionally about anal eroticism is just as important as the physical sensations. If you feel relaxed, turned on, and trusting of the person who is touching you, you are far more likely to enjoy anal stimulation. If you feel anxious or scared, if you expect it to be painful, or if you are doing it only to please your partner, you are far less likely to enjoy it.