Non-binary joy
BEN PECHEY REFLECTS ON THE POWER OF EMBRACING PLEASURE BEYOND THE GENDER BINARY IN AN EXTRACT FROM THEIR NEW BOOK
BEN PECHEY is a non-binary writer, presenter and fashion icon who has worked with the Guardian, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and more. @ben_pechey
PHOTO RUTH PECHEY
Non-binary people deserve pleasure, and I say this because I don’t think we hear it enough. We really do deserve it, but because of the way life is for us, we have to do a bit more legwork to find it.
WHERE TO LOOK FOR PLEASURE
To find pleasure in life, we have to work out what brings it and what doesn’t.
I am not a minimalist, and probably never will be, so Marie Kondo has never been a massive part of my life. However, her method of decluttering rooms – asking if each item sparks joy – can be applied to finding pleasure. If it does not bring you joy, do not interact with it. The things that do bring you joy are the things that you should cling on to.