A few years ago, I was on holiday in Sitges. I had an amazing time apart from one negative experience that has stayed with me. It was Bear Pride week. One evening, I went into a bar with a friend of mine and ordered a drink. I noticed a guy at the bar staring at me, but not in a flirtatious way. He looked hostile. And his behaviour soon matched his glare. My mind was racing trying to work out what was going on. Was he an ex? Was this some sort of dominant come-on? Did I look like someone else? All was revealed very quickly.