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Falling in love again…

If you’ve had your fingers burned in the past, a new romance can be scary. How can you be sure you are not going to make the same mistakes? Ellen Tout finds out


Presently, I’m in that beautiful phase of dating where a message pops up on my phone and I can’t help smiling, or we meet for dinner and end up talking for hours into the night. I love the feeling – the anticipation and the butterflies – but I can’t help panicking, questioning if I’m ready for anything more. We met just over a month ago and, although I know it can’t stay this exciting forever, trusting enough to commit really scares me. I’ve been single for two years and

I have enjoyed taking a break. I’ve learned how to be happy in myself and I’ve thought through what I would like from a future partner. Looking back, I realise that previous relationships have taken up a lot of emotional energy, leaving me drained, and I want things to be dierent next time. I feel ready to let someone in, to slowly share the things I enjoy, but it feels overwhelming to allow myself to be vulnerable again.

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This month we’re exploring how to truly have a happy Christmas. If you don’t have any religious beliefs, the holidays can be rather become a meaningless glut of overconsumption and commercialism, but this issue will help you explore how to create a different experience for you, your friends and family this year. And often it’s about kindness. Our interview with June Sapong explores how we can use kindness in our everyday lives to make the world a better place. One of our own relays her experience of finding the bravery and courage to start dating again. When a relationship goes sour, it’s normal to lick your wounds for a bit but how do we begin to heal and have the courage to be vulnerable and get back out there again? Ellen Tout takes us on that journey. Natalie Hourihan explores ‘creativism’ with author and entrepreneur Orna Ross and shows us how to connect with our ‘creative intelligence’ so we can design a life that works for us on our terms. The good news we all have access to this intelligence, we just need to know how to harness it!