ADVICE
Q&A
Our agony aunt, Mary Fenwick, offers a new perspective on whatever is troubling you
Will suggesting change seem like a criticism?
Q Generally speaking, all is well in my life, and from the outside I am extremely fortunate. I am fully aware that my situation, compared to many, is one of privilege – yet my life lacks inspiration and feels dull. I’m 45 and have always lived in a relationship where fun has not been a priority – although my husband is a good man. What should I do? Is it even possible to introduce an element of fun into my life when, at the top of my list of concerns, is not to cause hurt to my husband?
In summary, not only is the fun missing from your life, but you’re also worried your husband may take it personally. And you’re not wrong to have that concern. Clinical psychologist Michaela Thomas says that, in her experience of working with heterosexual couples, the man is often not ready for those insights.