EROTIC ADVENTURER ANNA SANSOM INVITES YOU TO JOIN HER ON A JOURNEY OF SEXUAL SELF-DISCOVERY

WORDS ROXY BOURDILLON

“We may think of ourselves as broken in some way, but actually we never are”

Anna Sansom wants you to have better sex. And she doesn’t mean that in a Cosmopolitan’s Mind-blowing Lesbian Sex Positions kind of way. The Rockin’ Rockette and The Lazy Girls’ 69 are all well and good, but she’s a proponent of something far less prescriptive and much more revolutionary. She wants you to have more authentic sex, sex that connects with who you actually are and what you really crave deep down. She wants you to feel liberated from shame and unlimited by societal expectations. And she wouldn’t dream of asking you to do all that if she wasn’t willing to go there first. In her soul-baring, unputdownable book, Desire Lines, you can read all about her adventures and the many different “desire lines” she’s walked so far, including exploring ethical non-monogamy, joining the kink community and even spending time as a healing sexual surrogate partner (more on that later).

When we chat on the phone, I quickly discover that not only is “queer dyke” Anna a bold sexual adventurer, she’s also absolutely bloomin’ lovely – passionate, present and sincere. We have friends in common, as she used to be DIVA’s very own Sex Life editor. I’m thoroughly tickled when she tells me she landed the job by sending former editor Jane Czyzselska a photo of – “This is going to sound terrible!” – her vulva. She is eager to explain. “They had put a callout asking for readers to send pictures in for an article about vulva diversity.” Submitting her selfie led to an ongoing correspondence, and when the vacancy came up Anna leapt at the chance.