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EMANUEL WIEMANS
Q A year ago, my sister confided that her husband was having an affair.
I wasn’t that surprised. I told my husband, who was furious and said he was no longer welcome in our house.
Somewhat awkwardly, she has now taken him back and is expecting they will come to ours as usual for the traditional Christmas get-together, including their adult children (who don’t know) and partners. My sister doesn’t know I told my husband. It’s all a mess and I’m afraid what might be said after a few gins. Should I cancel?
Whoops and whoops again! By telling your husband about your brother-in-law’s misdeeds you have managed to get yourself and the whole family in a right pickle.
It’s a bit late for you to make use of one of my golden rules, which I call, ‘I never liked him anyway’. These are the five words it is wise on no account to utter when a sister or girlfriend tells you she now hates her partner. And because of his dastardly behaviour she no longer wishes to share her life with him.