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Q I suspect my best friend’s wife is having an affair. We’ve been friends since university and I’ve grown close to his wife too, but the other day I saw her in a restaurant holding hands and stroking the cheek of a much younger man. They looked blissfully happy. Do I tell my friend and risk being responsible for destroying their marriage?
ALUN CALLENDER
a I’d like you to imagine you are standing on the central reservation of the M25 at rush hour and contemplating crossing the northbound carriageway on foot. In emotional terms this, roughly speaking, is the possible catastrophic outcome of being helpful to your friend by telling him what you have seen.