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Q Myhusband is reneging on an agreement that we would move to the country when we retire next year. It had been our dream for as long as I can remember, but earlier this year he started saying he will miss our friends and local golf club too much. I've pointed out our friends can come to stay and there is a wonderful club near our chosen village, but he won't budge. I'm heartbroken and feel let down. I love my husband, but I can't bear the thought of spending the rest of my days in a big city. What do you suggest?
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I can understand your disappointment but at least he's been open about his change of heart. It would have been worse if he'd just gone along with the original plan without saying anything. The bitterness and resentment that could have led to further down the line could have ruined your retirement.