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Q My wife died last year, and I was heartbroken. We’d been married for 43 years, and I thought I’d never smile again. Then, when our long-standing neighbours moved, I met their buyer, a beautiful widow in her late sixties. We fairly instantly fell in love and are now in a happy relationship. However, I can’t get over my feelings of guilt at not mourning longer for my wife; it feels like I’ve betrayed her. The less-than-generous reaction our relationship has had from neighbours and some of my wife’s friends hasn’t helped, though my children have been incredibly supportive and say their mum would not have wanted me to suffer on my own. How can I find peace of mind and make the most of my good fortune?