Call them daddy
NIC CROSARA REFLECTS on their journey to trans fatherhood
I’d been testing using they/he pronouns (instead of exclusively they/them), as well as switching between labels such as partner and boyfriend. I was trialling this privately with my girlfriend (who is also trans) to see if it sparked joy. And it did.
As an ex-smoker, I know all too well my brain’s ability to hold two contradictory beliefs at the same time. I wholeheartedly believe that other people don’t have to look or act a certain way for their gender to be valid. At the same time, I told myself I couldn’t claim a more transmasculine identity for a multitude of reasons. I’m 5ft 2in. My voice is high-pitched. People often describe me as a “highly sensitive person”. I grew up around a lot of men. Some short, some shrill and all sensitive in some way. Still, my imposter syndrome had me internalising some patriarchal false truths on masculinity.