Please yourself
Putting others’ needs first all the time seems laudable, but sometimes it’s necessary to be self-focused
ILLUSTRATION: KATHRIN LANG
Self-centredness is, it’s generally agreed, a negative trait. Narcissistic tendencies do not a good friend make. And being at the centre of a solar system is both magnetic and repellent. Ultimately, it’s a lonely place to be.
Your life, however, is shaped in the opposite direction. You’ve created an existence that’s outward-focused and community-minded. This path enables you to live by your values and give something back. Helping others is an altruism that provides a positive feedback loop – to feel that you’re contributing feeds your soul.