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Q I am 25 and I have been dating my 35-year-old boyfriend for six months. I recently discovered six videos of me naked, made without my consent, on his computer: one of me getting changed in the morning; me in the shower and others of me lying in bed asleep. This discovery left me shocked, since he is so kind, respectful and seemingly normal. There have been no red flags or strange behaviour; in fact it is the best relationship I have ever been in. I don’t believe he intends to share these videos, but I find it very confusing and worrying that he did not ask me, and clearly indulges in voyeuristic behaviour. I am unsure how to confront him. Name supplied
A Your trust has been shaken, understandably, and you will need to know more before you decide whether or not you want to stay in the relationship.